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Stories that inspire others.

Your heritage your family name – reveals you

When someone tease your family name, tell them you are proud of who you are. Do not let anyone make you feel ashamed because you are bullied for it. Your family name is something you inherit from generations before you. Your heritage, your family name reveals who you are. Continue reading

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I have a dream for a non-profit to help families

I have a dream that one day I have the courage to set up a non-profit organization to help families who need respite care. How did this dream drift about? Out of my own desperate unmet needs. Continue reading

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Pro-life is essentially a necessity from the view of a mom

Pro-life definition

According to Google, the definition of pro-life is opposing abortion and euthanasia. It makes sense because if you do not support pro-life, you are pro-death. Essentially, a person who is pro-abortion and supporter of euthanasia is pro-death.

What does that mean? It means in favor of ending life through medical induced means either to end a pregnancy or assisted suicide.

Why is pro-life essentially a necessity?

Why am I here talking about this? Before I became a mom 6 years ago, I was never interested in the debate on the pro and cons on this issue. My view then was ‘none of my business’.

What changed my mind? The day I held my son in my arms and nursed him. This beautiful baby in my face, changed everything that I stood for. It was the first time I saw life as one so beautiful and precious.

Moms you are made to procreate

My plead to moms is that you need to know you are made to procreate. That is how special you are. Life comes from your womb. Some politicians argue that pro-life supporters are selfish.

How is a mom selfish when she learns to care and love a new life and takes responsibility for this new life she procreates? It is when one chooses to end another life, deciding that little life is not worth living because her ‘needs’ come first. Taking that life away is selfishness.

Young ladies, listen

Sometimes, as young women, you do not like to think that the act of taking another life (or clump of cells) is selfishness. But it is true. When you decide to have sex, and not consider the consequence of that act, you do not care do you? Now listen. You can either choose to take responsibility or find an easy way out of your turmoil.

Let me remind you that that abortion you took would haunt you for the rest of your life. One day should you decide to be a mom, you may never be able to conceive again.

Pro-life
Abortion – No!

As for those young ladies who choose to have babies to collect child support, I have a word for you. You are destroying lives. Your babies are not money-making machines. You are selfish and they deserve a better mom. If you are ever going to be a mom, be the best that you can be.

If you are unfortunate and was raped, I feel for you. You do not deserved being raped. When someone destroys your dream and hope, your future, that person deserves  being punished or even be put to death. I know. It hurts deep.

I truly do not expect you to take care of that baby. It is understandable if you cannot do it. If you can, give that little life up for adoption. 

Next generation depends on you

The word to procreate is to produce young. Our role as moms, is to produce the next generation to keep the family going. Are we going to produce healthy secured individuals? Why do I ask this question?

My son as some of you know him as David, often in our conversations we talk about death. Why is he so concerned about death? After all, he is only a 6-year-old boy.

In our in depth conversations, I discover he is afraid of being left behind alone without me. His fear and insecurity is the basis for his interest in the topic. I often have to remind him the beauty of life. Life is worthwhile because of the people you love.

Choose pro-life because life is better with you in it

Do you have someone you love deeply? Life is most worth the while because of that beautiful person/s you love. Do you know you are deeply loved? Then choose to be a pro-life rather than pro-death because life is better with you around.

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Good Enough And Brave Moms! Don’t Let Others Tell You Otherwise.

 Good Enough, Mom?

Are you moms who are struggling with self-confidence that ask constantly: ‘Am I good enough?’ and ‘Have I done enough?’ Today, I like to say: ‘You are good enough and you are brave.’ Don’t let others tell you otherwise.

Good Enough Is Not Enough

Parents enter into this journey with nothing but clean clear pages with nothing written on them. You look for manuals but found none. You look for instructions and  got disappointed. We literally have to pray through our pregnancies at all times and I suspect that every pregnancy is covered by prayers from those who love us.

Meanwhile, we study the handbook ensuring that we are prepared when baby arrives. The truth is no matter how prepared we think we are, there is always something that reminds us otherwise. Do we struggle to become the best? If we compare with other moms, are we at the 99.9 percentile? The top 1% in the parenting world?

Good Enough Is The Best We Know How

Through this journey of parenting, we learn to take note. We observe, we question and we take notes. That is how we become the best because we learn through our mistakes. That is also how I believe God grows our mindset as parents. It is also through our desperate times, we come to God for help.

Do we need all our questions answered? The answer is no. The learning continues as we grow through our life experiences. We learn to make better choices over our failures. Interestingly, we learn to increase our ability to work within our limitations over time. We have become therefore the best that we know how. That is good enough by the way, moms.

You Are A Brave Mom! That Is Good Enough

Parenting is no easy feat. Trust me! You need courage and grit. For that reason you are brave enough. Look at your child’s achievements not failures. Seek to empower not put down. Look at how much you have grown as a mom and dad. You are brave enough to take on the challenges of raising a lifelong learner. That is good enough! Don’t you think?

Good enough

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Vision 2018 – What God Spoke To My Heart

What God Spoke To My Heart (Vision 2018)

 As I sat down to ponder what DOTA‘s vision 2018 would look like, I recall what God spoke to my heart that got stuck deep within and it never left me since then.
On an early winter morning, I was alone sipping my cup of a delicious coffee. While my husband and father-in-law were away for an early morning doctor appointment and my son still soundly asleep, God spoke:
 “Do not resent or underestimate what God is doing if He is training you to get ready for what’s in store. Rejoice and submit for His greater plan is not to harm you but to bring you a future and a hope.”
The word of God is power and life transforming
 
One night as my husband and I laid on bed and I started sharing with him what I gathered from God lately and what I believed He spoke to me. He said: ‘Do not underestimate what you’re going through.’ ‘Do not resent because the path is tough.’ ‘I am training you for something to come.’
While I poured out my heart to my husband, to my surprise, he too received the same message from God. We do not often find ourselves at the same receiving end. But, when we do, the emotion is incredible.
WOW!! YOU TOO!!! UNBELIEVABLE!!!! That was awesome, by the way.
Pouring Of My Heart
So, we believe God has His hands on our lives. We do not simply welcome blessings and goodness in our lives. God has His purpose when He insists that He put us where we do not want to be in but where He believes we needed to be. We simply have to trust that God knows what He is doing.
The last 3 years have been tough. Sometimes, my faith is tested so much that I literally had to grit my teeth and endure through. Hoping for breakthrough and disappointed. Seeking for relief that never came through. Stuck in a circumstance that never see the light of day.
I am sure, you would understand these struggles in life. I am sure I am not the only one that had gone through these, part and puzzle of life.
When you find yourself in a similar situation, submit. It is easier to say it now. The struggle is real. But, eventually, I learned to submit and the peace of God came. When you are ready to listen, He will speak.

Take Time To Reflect And Seek God For Your Vision 2018

 

Vision 2018

Without Faith it is impossible to please God

2018 is coming. Take time to reflect the year and seek God for your future. If you think your plan for next year is great, God’s plan for you is greater. For He does not narrow His vision to 2018, He has your entire life in His hands. Walk only where He shine the path before you because that is what it means to live by FAITH.
Trust Him even though the rest of the path is dim and foggy. He will lead the way and you simply follow, never alone.
Finally, may you anticipate the year of breakthrough in 2018. Living out the promise of a future and hope that God gave in Jeremiah 29:11. #year2018 #DOTA
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A Season To Reflect – Giving Thanks For God Is Good!

Season To Reflect?

Prizes

Gift of love

What a year had gone by so quickly and it is that season for us to reflect again what God had done. What is your year like in 2017? Did it go well as you have anticipated? Or is it a year full of challenges and lessons to learn?

In This Season Did You Grow Spiritually?

One key question that you need to ask yourself is that in this season of your life, did you grow at all? Sometimes we can be looking at our situations with a microscopic eye view and get despair because of what we see, thinking everything is hopeless.

Instead, have you step back and focus on the big picture lately? If you have, what do you see? It is not too late.

A Season Of Growth And Hope

During the tough time, choose to declare that God is good. Even though you cannot see the good and understand the reason behind the lessons. Believe that God is in control because He is faithful.

During the good time, give Him praise and glory. For He is good.

Let This Christmas Season Be Special

May you allow God to search your heart and motive this season. During this time of reflection let the Holy Spirit work through you. As a reminder:

Every time you see a candy cane, either hanging on your Christmas tree or simply happen to see one.. simply take a step back and be reminded of God’s big tapestry. Though you cannot see what God is doing because what you see makes no sense right now. Simply put your trust in Him.

Hope In Jesus Christ

one day this full beautiful tapestry will be completed and will be revealed. Let your hope rest in our Lord Jesus for it is the birth of Jesus that brings hope to all mankind. Have a blessed Christmas.
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The New Chapter – Beyond David’s Mom

The New Chapter – As David’s Learning Coach

When Dan and I decided the path for David was to home-school him, my new chapter as David‘s learning coach began. We were excited when his enrollment was accepted by K12.com

Excitement continued to build up when we finally had a chance to talk to his new teacher over the phone. To cut the story short, David was transferred from Transitional Kindergarten to Kindergarten.

 The New Chapter Comes The New Reality

New chapter

Now, after the introduction to David’s new school online, Dan and I were told about our roles as his learning coaches. We had to go through orientation courses to get ready for this new role we were about to embark with him. The reality of being David’s learning coach finally set in. It took me a while to adapt and adjust to this new role in my life. Seven weeks had past and David did well although not always smooth sailing, we made it. This week, his teacher is preparing to meet all the parents and planning for the next quarter. We are meeting her on the 24th of October in the morning.

The Knots Behind My New Chapter – As A Learning Coach

He never has to do any intense work all through his 4 years on earth so far. He gets to play all day and not much schooling unless he wants to. If he does do any school work, they have never bothered him before. They are usually fun for him. About 4-5 weeks into our homeschooling program, David mentioned that school was hard work. The 7 weeks of homeschooling was not always smooth sailing like I’ve said before.

We struggled and got back to school on several occasions. One of the struggle we had was trying to get all the various phonic sounds accurately. I was born with a cleft palate and teaching David phonics was a tremendous task for me. Sometimes, if you know David, he liked to be the teacher instead.. and that did not help either. Unfortunately, the struggle might have caused him some anxiety which did not help our relationship as mom and son. At times, I wished the struggles never happened. Other than phonics, we got along pretty well.

The Needs To Advocate As A Mom In This New Chapter

I was his mom to begin with, although in my new chapter I was called to be David’s learning coach. I felt as his mom, I needed to fight for what was best for him. In so many way, I could work around to keep him engaged and growing in knowledge because I knew how to work according to his ability. He did great in many areas in Kindergarten however, I felt he needed more challenge in Mathematics so my mommy instinct kicked in.

I felt the need to push for more expectation from his Kindergarten teacher despite the fact that as a law abiding citizen, I grew up following rules and regulations. This is clearly another new chapter in my life. From a reserved and timid individual, I have become an advocate and David’s learning coach. This new chapter brought forth some epiphany moments in me.

The Epiphany Behind My New Chapter As David’s Learning Coach

Epiphancy of homeschooling

Into the 7 weeks of homeschooling David, I got to see him for the first time cutting shapes independently using a safety scissors. He is able to write phrases reasonably well in lower case letters. So much so that even Grandpa noticed how much he improved in his handwriting. This proud mama had to share with his teacher.

The epiphany moment came when his teacher called me ‘a blessed homeschooling mom’. You see,  7 weeks before, we were not sure if we were ready to home-school David. However, 7 weeks into his Kindergarten, mommy suddenly realized we made the right choice to home-school him. We got to see, our own ‘aha’ moment. Nothing is more worthwhile than experiencing our ‘aha’ moments with David.

New Chapter -What’s For The Future?

For now, we are happy with our decision. We will continue to home-school David until the need arises to make another decision together. To work harder at improving my skills as a learning coach and be more sensitive to David’s feelings to build him up.

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Political Correctness Is Out Of Control, Walking On Egg Shells Is No Freedom

 Political Correctness Is Out Of Control

Is political correctness blamed for many caught walking on egg shells, in homes, work places and social media? What do you think? By the way, have you heard the song ‘I’m walking on sunshine.. wow..wow’? Just a candid comparison to show how it feels to walk on sunshine and walking on egg shells. Be honest, which do you prefer?

Political correctness

The reason for raising this social situation is because we need a more honest and tougher look at what’s happening today.  Insisting on political correctness mentality is spun out of control. At the same time, it takes away our freedom in so many ways.

When did we first hear the phrase ‘political correctness’ before? What does it mean to our families, colleagues at work and online friends on social media? In addition to all my questions, here is the last one: ‘Why is being politically correct so important socially?’ Have you ask why?

How Does Political Correctness Take Away Our Freedom?

Whenever we have to watch over our shoulders to say something in the open, in retrospect, we have no freedom. Unfortunately, a leaked written memo that came out of Google became viral because what was written offended his colleagues and was ultimately shamed on the media this week.

I honestly did not agree with his perspective on some points. Yet, when Google CEO fired him, the news shocked me. Apart from what I think, I do not agree that his memo was worthy of firing. Was he fired for the wrong reasons? He responded by planning to file a complaint against Google.

Did he have the right to respond the way he did? In a way, the firing forced the former Google employee to ‘shut up’. Would that stop him from making his mind known? Did someone take his freedom away? What do you think?

Political Correctness Censors And Robs Our Freedom

This week, Bob Nelson, Fresno Unified’s interim superintendent was on the news. His statement: ‘you have kids who are extremely moldable at this stage, and if you start telling them that LGBT is OK and that it’s a way of life, well maybe you just swayed the kid to go that way‘ brought fire and fury to the LGBT community and an LGBT activist demanded that he should be fired for his statement to the local newspaper, Fresno Bee.

As a mom, I agree with Bob because our young children are visual learners. They cannot process abstract information like the older kids do. These materials are complex and not age appropriate. They often easily persuaded in order to gain an adult’s approval.

Here is another classic example of how often we are walking on egg shells. When a minority group opposes our perspective, we become offensive to them. This clearly reinforce what I’ve to highlight in this article.

Is Tolerance The Answer To Political Correctness And Freedom?

How is intolerance acceptable to some speeches and not to others? Why do we punish those who speak their minds? When do we violate free speech and free press? How can we hold a double standard on free speech when in truth, freedom is for all? Not exclusively for just some of the elite members of the club.

I choose to respectfully disagree and allow him the freedom to express his honest opinion. I also realize we have limit in what we can and cannot tolerate. Now, you are being judgmental.. or am I? We need a tougher look and be honest about what we are able to tolerate and what’s intolerable to us. In the case of Bob Nelson, I believe in what he said and we should protest if Fresno Unified School District fires him.

In retrospect, have we been fair or are we equally judgmental to those who differ from our perspective? As a result, we took away his freedom to be himself, to express his thoughts on various matters. Are we being fair to him as a nation? How about Bob’s case?

Walking On Egg Shells Is No Freedom

If we have to walk on egg shells all the time, the truth of the matter is, we have no freedom. No freedom in speech and actions and most of all, no freedom of the press. Whenever a person gets punish for putting an opinion in print, we rob him or her the freedom to express who he or she is. For a nation that actively encourage freedom, this is unacceptable.

My conclusion to this article is that if we therefore, cannot disagree with respect to those who have different opinions from us, we take away the freedom that belong to all. Can we at the least agree with this?

 

 

 

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Hugalicious Day Everyone – Celebrate The Story Behind It All

Hello everyone! My name is David and I am 4. I am going 5 on August 29. Happy Hugalicious Day! ‘Hugalicious is that it will never end’. Come celebrate Hugalicious Day with me on August 21. Post how you celebrate Hugalicious with me and hashtag it to #celebratehugaliciousdaywithdavid I love to watch your videos.

The Story Behind Hugalicious Day

David loves putting 2 words together and creates a whole new word. It’s his thing. He is absolutely creative and definitely a curious little guy. He is always looking for new ideas through his play and learning. One day he saw an advertisement and he shouted: ‘Cycleboard’! Now you ask: ‘What’s a Cycleboard’? Cycleboard

By the time David is 4, he’s reading really well for his age. He calls himself  ‘Math Bee‘ and a great speller for his age. David enjoys playing games like ‘Angry birds’, ‘Bad Piggies’, ‘Cut the rope with Om Nom’ and others. He loves to sing and dance and adores minions and various characters in Mickey Mouse Clubhouse.

Occasionally, he gets special treats by going to the play area in his favorite McDonald. Even though he is 4, David is able to google anything he wants to know on his computer. He aspires to become an awesome game host and his favorite is: ‘Who wants to be a millionaire?’  David is starting his schooling, a day before he turns 5, online with K12.com

Reasons Why Hugalicious Is Important To David

He loves playing with his friends and often looks forward to social activities, however, due to our present circumstance, we are unable to do so. David’s dad was and is still unemployed for more than 2 years now. We moved in to take care of David’s grandpa.

When David was 2, we gave him a $5 calculator as a Christmas gift that year. We could not afford more because of our circumstance. That turned out as an awesome idea because he loved numbers. Even to this day, he loves to learn everything new that is to do with numbers.

He does not attend birthday parties because they cost money. We celebrate his birthdays by going out to dinners and cakes just on his birthdays. Yet this little guy never once complain that we do not give him a birthday party.

Mom’s Thoughts And Reflection

As his parents, we cannot give him much like many kids his age, however, David never ask for anything. Most of what he has come from gifts his grandma bought for him on his first birthday. Often neighbors would drop by and gave him items he needed, solely by the grace of God.

David

David stays home most of time and so he loves his computer. When he brought up the idea about Hugalicious Day, I just love it. I hope that by doing this, David gets to learn he makes a difference even though he is 4. He would learn that his ideas can make someone else happy.

 

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Some Surprising Lessons About Life – Be Resilience To Life

Be Resilience To Life

My mother-in-law had an amazing plant at the porch for several years now. It is one of the most resilience plants of all I know.  Let me introduce you to a favorite of all humming birds in our neighborhood anyway.

Resilience

Maybe some know this plant well but I am sure there are others who do not. I have the privilege to live with this amazing plant for more than 9 years now and would like to share what I learned about some surprising life lessons from it. Through this article, I will highlight some specific life lessons we can learn.

Revive Quickly

It does not take much effort to keep this beautiful plant alive. Sometimes, you watch it drooping and seemingly dying. However, with one sufficient drink from the sprinkler, it will return often without a doubt to life soon after that drink. Life is sometimes tough, but if our wish to live is stronger than giving it up than we like this lovely plant can revive quickly. Every opportunity we take to keep us going, is an opportunity to live above our circumstances.

If we give up, we deny life for ourselves. This particular plant is a true survivor even in the toughest ground.

Easy To Propagate –  Resilience To Grow Freely 

One of the easiest way to plant this beauty is simply to cut a piece of it and stick it to the ground with only consistent watering. It grows well without much care. In life, we resist changes. If we are open to being moved from one situation to another, we are not that despondent when life tests our strength. It is never easy when your life gets interrupted by unexpected events.

However, the flexibility gives us the strength to stay calm and not to run away from unexpected and difficult circumstances. Resilience

When The New Replace The Dead

As I see, often in this particular plant, new blooms appear shortly after the flowers appear dead. We celebrate resilience when the new replace those that are dead. On the contrary, to give up is to stop trying again and with it comes death.

We need new fresh outlook every time we get knock down. You see,  new blooms bring new beginning and a glimpse of hope that comes along in it. From watching this plant often, it reminds me that I need to stay resilience no matter what life brings.

I would not be surprised if it is the reason this beautiful plant is deeply loved.

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