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About eileen

Founder of DOTA. Wife of Daniel J Dick (Founder of nodivorces and Godsblogs) Step mom to Michelle who turns 24 years old in January 2017. With the blessing of God, David was added to this family in 2012. He will be 5 in August 2017. Eileen enjoys working with children with disabilities and is a proud daughter of the Almighty.

Your heritage your family name – reveals you

When someone tease your family name, tell them you are proud of who you are. Do not let anyone make you feel ashamed because you are bullied for it. Your family name is something you inherit from generations before you. Your heritage, your family name reveals who you are. Continue reading

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Pay attention and listen when God speaks

Pay attention God Speaks To Us Through Various Ways

Recently, my son David pay attention and drew this picture during his art lesson. He remained focused and refused being interrupted until he completed this scene. As he explained what he drew, I felt God tugged on my heart string.

Pay attention

‘A storm coming, lots of rain, flood, houses and people in the water.’ He continued. I had a chill running up my spine. I wondered how much my son knew about what the news forecast over the hurricane Florence. Was he aware?

This picture that he drew was a couple of days before the hurricane.  This is likely coming from God because I have never seen David that focused before.

He remained determine to complete it without being interrupted. He had to get it out of his head. Like I said, God speaks! We need to pay attention and listen.

Pay attention! In 2004, God spoke to me through a dream.

To this day, the dream I had remained clear and vivid in my head. The year 2004 between December 24th – 25th, I had a dream. I dreamed that I got trapped between a fire (outside) and a wall. I was not in danger that I knew.

The fire was huge and stirred a fear within me. I touched the wall and it was hot. Much later I shared this dream with my sister. She had a vision of that sort as well.

The difference was I did not pray and I fell asleep. Then a major news broke out on December 26th, 2004.

Hundreds of thousands of people died as a result of a massive tsunami that hit Aceh in Indonesia and other parts of South East Asia.

It brought me tears and regret for ignoring the warning. How did I know? After talking it over with my sister, I realized God spoke and I never pay attention.

Today, I pay attention and pray when God speaks

Sometimes, it takes us a while to realize the seriousness that when God speaks, He wants us to pay attention and listen to Him. Lives may depend on our action and willingness to seek God for answers.

Take God’s prompting seriously. Pay attention and listen when He speaks! Listen and pay attention to this. You are God’s ambassador.

God works through your obedience. It is a privilege to work as His hands and feet.

 

 

 

 

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I have a dream for a non-profit to help families

I have a dream that one day I have the courage to set up a non-profit organization to help families who need respite care. How did this dream drift about? Out of my own desperate unmet needs. Continue reading

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Pro-life is essentially a necessity from the view of a mom

Pro-life definition

According to Google, the definition of pro-life is opposing abortion and euthanasia. It makes sense because if you do not support pro-life, you are pro-death. Essentially, a person who is pro-abortion and supporter of euthanasia is pro-death.

What does that mean? It means in favor of ending life through medical induced means either to end a pregnancy or assisted suicide.

Why is pro-life essentially a necessity?

Why am I here talking about this? Before I became a mom 6 years ago, I was never interested in the debate on the pro and cons on this issue. My view then was ‘none of my business’.

What changed my mind? The day I held my son in my arms and nursed him. This beautiful baby in my face, changed everything that I stood for. It was the first time I saw life as one so beautiful and precious.

Moms you are made to procreate

My plead to moms is that you need to know you are made to procreate. That is how special you are. Life comes from your womb. Some politicians argue that pro-life supporters are selfish.

How is a mom selfish when she learns to care and love a new life and takes responsibility for this new life she procreates? It is when one chooses to end another life, deciding that little life is not worth living because her ‘needs’ come first. Taking that life away is selfishness.

Young ladies, listen

Sometimes, as young women, you do not like to think that the act of taking another life (or clump of cells) is selfishness. But it is true. When you decide to have sex, and not consider the consequence of that act, you do not care do you? Now listen. You can either choose to take responsibility or find an easy way out of your turmoil.

Let me remind you that that abortion you took would haunt you for the rest of your life. One day should you decide to be a mom, you may never be able to conceive again.

Pro-life
Abortion – No!

As for those young ladies who choose to have babies to collect child support, I have a word for you. You are destroying lives. Your babies are not money-making machines. You are selfish and they deserve a better mom. If you are ever going to be a mom, be the best that you can be.

If you are unfortunate and was raped, I feel for you. You do not deserved being raped. When someone destroys your dream and hope, your future, that person deserves  being punished or even be put to death. I know. It hurts deep.

I truly do not expect you to take care of that baby. It is understandable if you cannot do it. If you can, give that little life up for adoption. 

Next generation depends on you

The word to procreate is to produce young. Our role as moms, is to produce the next generation to keep the family going. Are we going to produce healthy secured individuals? Why do I ask this question?

My son as some of you know him as David, often in our conversations we talk about death. Why is he so concerned about death? After all, he is only a 6-year-old boy.

In our in depth conversations, I discover he is afraid of being left behind alone without me. His fear and insecurity is the basis for his interest in the topic. I often have to remind him the beauty of life. Life is worthwhile because of the people you love.

Choose pro-life because life is better with you in it

Do you have someone you love deeply? Life is most worth the while because of that beautiful person/s you love. Do you know you are deeply loved? Then choose to be a pro-life rather than pro-death because life is better with you around.

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Satan, Did God Create Satan?

WHAT LED TO THIS QUESTION ABOUT SATAN?

Satan- ‘Why does God create satan?’ was the most interesting question that my 5-year-old asked me today.

So, how did this question come about in our conversation? Part of our conversation was: ‘Who is satan?’

When we talk about who satan is, we talk about the existence of evil. If we further elaborate on what evil is, and know what evil is capable of, then why does God create satan? Here’s what our conversation led to.
FREEWILL TO LOVE
To love God, God demands that we love Him with all our hearts, our minds, and our souls. Why can’t God simply accept it when we say we love him? Does God insist that we love Him with all our hearts, minds and souls? What has it to do with satan then?
Have you ever expect that your spouse whom you love will love you back in return? Love is the most beautiful thing on this earth. When you truly love, you give your all to that which you love, am I right?
Sometimes, your love is not reciprocated. That is why love can be hurtful. When God creates us, He desires for us to love Him fully, wholeheartedly. Yet, at the same time, He recognizes that His creation may not reciprocate in the same manner. That He allows freewill.
The same way we are capable of – to love with all our hearts, minds and souls or to hate and despise Him. In order to know for sure, who truly loves you, you have to allow that person that freewill to not love you.
WHY THEN DOES GOD CREATE SATAN?
Which lead us back to this question: ‘Why does God create satan?’ God created Lucifer, the arc angel Lucifer. Lucifer was a high ranking angel. He was created to worship God and be God’s messenger. However, he wanted to become like God, became a rebel and fell away from Him.
Lucifer later became satan, the originator of evil. Lucifer became the deceiver. Therefore it is safe to say that Lucifer is the creator of the persona of satan, the evil that is rampant in our invisible realm. If God did not create satan, then why did He not put a stop to him anyway?
GOD CREATES HELL FOR SATAN AND HIS FOLLOWERS
God passed His judgement on satan by sending him and his followers to hell. That would be their final resting place. God must have hate satan so much that He send him to hell, right? Good question!
I don’t think God hate Lucifer, but the evil and darkness that deceive so many. The attempt that satan masterminds to take with him as many of God’s creation to hell is despicable to speak the least. Why should God tolerate such act?
Many think God is a tyrant, merciless and cruel Ruler. Yet, when they take time to read the Bible, they discover opposite is true. Through the Bible, we know God became man in the person of Jesus Christ (Son of God).
Jesus through his life, we know that he was humiliated, misunderstood, and died on the Cross (treated like a criminal). But, was glorified through his resurrection, 3 days after his death on the Cross.
JESUS THE SACRIFICIAL LAMB
The only reason Jesus came to live on earth for 33 years, he fits the description of the sacrificial lamb (the only offering that could appease God).
If God is indeed a tyrant, merciless and cruel as many think, why would He sacrifice Himself to die on the Cross and His blood that cleanses us from all our sins (wrong doing) and set us free to be with Him forever in Heaven?
The only explanation is this, He loves what He created and treasure everyone of them.
But, for those who choose to hate Him anyway, there is nothing more He could do but to let you have your way. Sometimes, when you do your best to provide for your children and yet your children cannot appreciate the good you do for them, you simply have to let them go and give them time to find their way home back to you.
This is all I have to say. Good nite to you all and may you spot that light that help you figure out the answer you are looking for. Feel fress to visit our Facebook Page.
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Good Enough And Brave Moms! Don’t Let Others Tell You Otherwise.

 Good Enough, Mom?

Are you moms who are struggling with self-confidence that ask constantly: ‘Am I good enough?’ and ‘Have I done enough?’ Today, I like to say: ‘You are good enough and you are brave.’ Don’t let others tell you otherwise.

Good Enough Is Not Enough

Parents enter into this journey with nothing but clean clear pages with nothing written on them. You look for manuals but found none. You look for instructions and  got disappointed. We literally have to pray through our pregnancies at all times and I suspect that every pregnancy is covered by prayers from those who love us.

Meanwhile, we study the handbook ensuring that we are prepared when baby arrives. The truth is no matter how prepared we think we are, there is always something that reminds us otherwise. Do we struggle to become the best? If we compare with other moms, are we at the 99.9 percentile? The top 1% in the parenting world?

Good Enough Is The Best We Know How

Through this journey of parenting, we learn to take note. We observe, we question and we take notes. That is how we become the best because we learn through our mistakes. That is also how I believe God grows our mindset as parents. It is also through our desperate times, we come to God for help.

Do we need all our questions answered? The answer is no. The learning continues as we grow through our life experiences. We learn to make better choices over our failures. Interestingly, we learn to increase our ability to work within our limitations over time. We have become therefore the best that we know how. That is good enough by the way, moms.

You Are A Brave Mom! That Is Good Enough

Parenting is no easy feat. Trust me! You need courage and grit. For that reason you are brave enough. Look at your child’s achievements not failures. Seek to empower not put down. Look at how much you have grown as a mom and dad. You are brave enough to take on the challenges of raising a lifelong learner. That is good enough! Don’t you think?

Good enough

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Alfie Evans Deserves The Right To Live!

How Alfie Evans Was Sentence To Death

As a mom of a 5-year-old, my heart broke for both Tom, Kate and especially Alfie. As we all know from the media reporting out of England, the heart breaking story of Alfie Evans who literally had to fight for his life on the 23rd of April 2018.

The doctors removed Alfie’s life support (ventilator) because of Alfie’s hopeless diagnosis (a rare progressive neuro-degenerative disease associated with severe epilepsy). Basically, it meant, his doctors prescribed a death sentence for Alfie because his life was deemed futile. Therefore, ‘end of life care’ became the only option for Alfie as his final stage of healthcare ended.

There Is Hope For Alfie Evans

Alfie Evans

Guess what? After 100 hours, Alfie is still breathing, on his own with only 1 litre of oxygen to supplement what he needs. He is an awesome strong fighter. Showing the entire world that he desires to live. There is hope for Alfie Evans.

What More Does Alfie Evans Have To Prove His Desire To Live?

Down Syndrome was a death sentence for many babies in 1945. Yet, we have come this far to acknowledge that children with Down Syndrome are capable of living a good quality of life. Years down the road, we will continue to find ways to support children with rare neuro-degenerative diseases and give them a chance (that same chance we give to children with Downs) to thrive.

Is it not possible? Why should Alfie’s life be cut short because of his condition? Is he to be blamed for the condition he was born with? If not, he does not deserve to die.

We as a society we should learn to empathize and find treatments to assist these children live a full life. We have no right to decide their fate even as care providers and specialists. If the professionals have the right to end a life, then, they have the power to remove a society as they see fit. Now, that is scary!

Leave your comment below. Let us know what you think.

An unexpected update: Alfie Evans passed away in the early morning. Please come together to send our deepest condolences to Tom and Kate. Alfie fought a good fight. Yes, he did!

 

 

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Vision 2018 – What God Spoke To My Heart

What God Spoke To My Heart (Vision 2018)

 As I sat down to ponder what DOTA‘s vision 2018 would look like, I recall what God spoke to my heart that got stuck deep within and it never left me since then.
On an early winter morning, I was alone sipping my cup of a delicious coffee. While my husband and father-in-law were away for an early morning doctor appointment and my son still soundly asleep, God spoke:
 “Do not resent or underestimate what God is doing if He is training you to get ready for what’s in store. Rejoice and submit for His greater plan is not to harm you but to bring you a future and a hope.”
The word of God is power and life transforming
 
One night as my husband and I laid on bed and I started sharing with him what I gathered from God lately and what I believed He spoke to me. He said: ‘Do not underestimate what you’re going through.’ ‘Do not resent because the path is tough.’ ‘I am training you for something to come.’
While I poured out my heart to my husband, to my surprise, he too received the same message from God. We do not often find ourselves at the same receiving end. But, when we do, the emotion is incredible.
WOW!! YOU TOO!!! UNBELIEVABLE!!!! That was awesome, by the way.
Pouring Of My Heart
So, we believe God has His hands on our lives. We do not simply welcome blessings and goodness in our lives. God has His purpose when He insists that He put us where we do not want to be in but where He believes we needed to be. We simply have to trust that God knows what He is doing.
The last 3 years have been tough. Sometimes, my faith is tested so much that I literally had to grit my teeth and endure through. Hoping for breakthrough and disappointed. Seeking for relief that never came through. Stuck in a circumstance that never see the light of day.
I am sure, you would understand these struggles in life. I am sure I am not the only one that had gone through these, part and puzzle of life.
When you find yourself in a similar situation, submit. It is easier to say it now. The struggle is real. But, eventually, I learned to submit and the peace of God came. When you are ready to listen, He will speak.

Take Time To Reflect And Seek God For Your Vision 2018

 

Vision 2018

Without Faith it is impossible to please God

2018 is coming. Take time to reflect the year and seek God for your future. If you think your plan for next year is great, God’s plan for you is greater. For He does not narrow His vision to 2018, He has your entire life in His hands. Walk only where He shine the path before you because that is what it means to live by FAITH.
Trust Him even though the rest of the path is dim and foggy. He will lead the way and you simply follow, never alone.
Finally, may you anticipate the year of breakthrough in 2018. Living out the promise of a future and hope that God gave in Jeremiah 29:11. #year2018 #DOTA
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A Season To Reflect – Giving Thanks For God Is Good!

Season To Reflect?

Prizes

Gift of love

What a year had gone by so quickly and it is that season for us to reflect again what God had done. What is your year like in 2017? Did it go well as you have anticipated? Or is it a year full of challenges and lessons to learn?

In This Season Did You Grow Spiritually?

One key question that you need to ask yourself is that in this season of your life, did you grow at all? Sometimes we can be looking at our situations with a microscopic eye view and get despair because of what we see, thinking everything is hopeless.

Instead, have you step back and focus on the big picture lately? If you have, what do you see? It is not too late.

A Season Of Growth And Hope

During the tough time, choose to declare that God is good. Even though you cannot see the good and understand the reason behind the lessons. Believe that God is in control because He is faithful.

During the good time, give Him praise and glory. For He is good.

Let This Christmas Season Be Special

May you allow God to search your heart and motive this season. During this time of reflection let the Holy Spirit work through you. As a reminder:

Every time you see a candy cane, either hanging on your Christmas tree or simply happen to see one.. simply take a step back and be reminded of God’s big tapestry. Though you cannot see what God is doing because what you see makes no sense right now. Simply put your trust in Him.

Hope In Jesus Christ

one day this full beautiful tapestry will be completed and will be revealed. Let your hope rest in our Lord Jesus for it is the birth of Jesus that brings hope to all mankind. Have a blessed Christmas.
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The Cause And Effect Of Anger: Why Anger Is Not The Answer?

A Talk About Anger

As a parent, did you ever have to talk to your child about anger? The issue is real in a child growing up. There are moments where as a parent we have to engage and sometimes confront our kids about their struggle coping with it. It is not a pleasant conversation but a necessary reinforcement if the behavior persists.

My question is: What would you tell your child about the emotion? Yes, anger is a natural emotion that if provoked, is normal. But, the issue is how do you regulate that emotion and not be subdued by it? What do you mean? Well, here’s where I would like to discuss whether being angry is a problem or is inability to control it, the problem? What then is the solution if any?

Cause And Effect Of Anger

Do you agree with me that such emotion is not desirable and not acceptable socially? Now ask yourself why it is so? So, you think it is destructive? Have you thought about why such behavior is destructive?

I have a 5-year-old whom I spend substantial time explaining why anger is not an emotion that brings happiness around people. This is what I’ve said to him. Do not try to collect and stay angry for a long time. The more frustration you collect, the worst you would feel inside. It would eventually reach a point you cannot hold in any longer and you explode.

When you explode, others around you get hurt. So, they begin to collect anger like you and the more they collect, the more they hold in and subsequently, they explode too. This time, when they explode, you get hurt by them. The cycle continues.

Questions And Discussion – Is Anger A Good Thing?

At this point, I stop to ask him some questions. Do you think being angry is a good thing? Why and why not? I need to ask these questions in order to know if he understands what I’m trying to tell him. Being a bright little guy, he shows that he has understood me. So, he concludes that being and stay angry is not a good thing because it hurts others and himself. So, what’s the solution?

What Would You Tell Your Child? – Staying Away From Anger

Now, I change the scenario and instead of staying angry, I encourage him to think about what if. What if you give away hugs? What would happen?  Everyone is happy. What are we collecting this time? Happiness. Is happiness a good thing? When you feel good and everyone around you feels good, it brings joy and smiles instead of hurts. Let us collect hugs and spread happiness instead. We need to understand that in some cases, there are exceptions.

Exceptional Situation Beyond Our Understanding

Some kids have difficulty controlling their emotions due to some disability, that is true. Emotional outbursts are often the result of a child’s inability to control his/her emotion. Expressing complex emotions can be perplexed for some, therefore, it is a real difficult challenge for them. There are several reasons why they are struggling although, there are times, it may not necessary be their fault.

For example, children with ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) have difficulty controlling their emotions and we need sensitivity and awareness when we meet a child with ADHD. How do we encourage our kids to include friends with ADHD during play time?

The Next Question Is

How do we then teach our children to relate with others who are different? Fear often stops us from wanting to relate with someone who is different from us. There are several reasons why we are afraid. How do we teach our kiddos to open up to peers unlike their thinking?

If you have any input to add to our discussion, please feel free to comment on our post below. What would you say is a good solution to teach our kiddos about anger and what can we learn from them?

 

 

 

 

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