Category Archives: Inspirations
Good Enough, Mom?
Are you moms who are struggling with self-confidence that ask constantly: ‘Am I good enough?’ and ‘Have I done enough?’ Today, I like to say: ‘You are good enough and you are brave.’ Don’t let others tell you otherwise.
Good Enough Is Not Enough
Parents enter into this journey with nothing but clean clear pages with nothing written on them. You look for manuals but found none. You look for instructions and got disappointed. We literally have to pray through our pregnancies at all times and I suspect that every pregnancy is covered by prayers from those who love us.
Meanwhile, we study the handbook ensuring that we are prepared when baby arrives. The truth is no matter how prepared we think we are, there is always something that reminds us otherwise. Do we struggle to become the best? If we compare with other moms, are we at the 99.9 percentile? The top 1% in the parenting world?
Good Enough Is The Best We Know How
Through this journey of parenting, we learn to take note. We observe, we question and we take notes. That is how we become the best because we learn through our mistakes. That is also how I believe God grows our mindset as parents. It is also through our desperate times, we come to God for help.
Do we need all our questions answered? The answer is no. The learning continues as we grow through our life experiences. We learn to make better choices over our failures. Interestingly, we learn to increase our ability to work within our limitations over time. We have become therefore the best that we know how. That is good enough by the way, moms.
You Are A Brave Mom! That Is Good Enough
Parenting is no easy feat. Trust me! You need courage and grit. For that reason you are brave enough. Look at your child’s achievements not failures. Seek to empower not put down. Look at how much you have grown as a mom and dad. You are brave enough to take on the challenges of raising a lifelong learner. That is good enough! Don’t you think?
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What God Spoke To My Heart (Vision 2018)
As I sat down to ponder what DOTA‘s vision 2018 would look like, I recall what God spoke to my heart that got stuck deep within and it never left me since then.
On an early winter morning, I was alone sipping my cup of a delicious coffee. While my husband and father-in-law were away for an early morning doctor appointment and my son still soundly asleep, God spoke:
“Do not resent or underestimate what God is doing if He is training you to get ready for what’s in store. Rejoice and submit for His greater plan is not to harm you but to bring you a future and a hope.”
The word of God is power and life transforming
One night as my husband and I laid on bed and I started sharing with him what I gathered from God lately and what I believed He spoke to me. He said: ‘Do not underestimate what you’re going through.’ ‘Do not resent because the path is tough.’ ‘I am training you for something to come.’
While I poured out my heart to my husband, to my surprise, he too received the same message from God. We do not often find ourselves at the same receiving end. But, when we do, the emotion is incredible.
WOW!! YOU TOO!!! UNBELIEVABLE!!!! That was awesome, by the way.
Pouring Of My Heart
So, we believe God has His hands on our lives. We do not simply welcome blessings and goodness in our lives. God has His purpose when He insists that He put us where we do not want to be in but where He believes we needed to be. We simply have to trust that God knows what He is doing.
The last 3 years have been tough. Sometimes, my faith is tested so much that I literally had to grit my teeth and endure through. Hoping for breakthrough and disappointed. Seeking for relief that never came through. Stuck in a circumstance that never see the light of day.
I am sure, you would understand these struggles in life. I am sure I am not the only one that had gone through these, part and puzzle of life.
When you find yourself in a similar situation, submit. It is easier to say it now. The struggle is real. But, eventually, I learned to submit and the peace of God came. When you are ready to listen, He will speak.
Take Time To Reflect And Seek God For Your Vision 2018
2018 is coming. Take time to reflect the year and seek God for your future. If you think your plan for next year is great, God’s plan for you is greater. For He does not narrow His vision to 2018, He has your entire life in His hands. Walk only where He shine the path before you because that is what it means to live by FAITH.
Trust Him even though the rest of the path is dim and foggy. He will lead the way and you simply follow, never alone.
Season To Reflect?
What a year had gone by so quickly and it is that season for us to reflect again what God had done. What is your year like in 2017? Did it go well as you have anticipated? Or is it a year full of challenges and lessons to learn?
In This Season Did You Grow Spiritually?
One key question that you need to ask yourself is that in this season of your life, did you grow at all? Sometimes we can be looking at our situations with a microscopic eye view and get despair because of what we see, thinking everything is hopeless.
Instead, have you step back and focus on the big picture lately? If you have, what do you see? It is not too late.
A Season Of Growth And Hope
During the tough time, choose to declare that God is good. Even though you cannot see the good and understand the reason behind the lessons. Believe that God is in control because He is faithful.
During the good time, give Him praise and glory. For He is good.
Let This Christmas Season Be Special
May you allow God to search your heart and motive this season. During this time of reflection let the Holy Spirit work through you. As a reminder:
Every time you see a candy cane, either hanging on your Christmas tree or simply happen to see one.. simply take a step back and be reminded of God’s big tapestry. Though you cannot see what God is doing because what you see makes no sense right now. Simply put your trust in Him.
Hope In Jesus Christ
one day this full beautiful tapestry will be completed and will be revealed. Let your hope rest in our Lord Jesus for it is the birth of Jesus that brings hope to all mankind. Have a blessed Christmas.
The New Chapter – As David’s Learning Coach
Excitement continued to build up when we finally had a chance to talk to his new teacher over the phone. To cut the story short, David was transferred from Transitional Kindergarten to Kindergarten.
The New Chapter Comes The New Reality
Now, after the introduction to David’s new school online, Dan and I were told about our roles as his learning coaches. We had to go through orientation courses to get ready for this new role we were about to embark with him. The reality of being David’s learning coach finally set in. It took me a while to adapt and adjust to this new role in my life. Seven weeks had past and David did well although not always smooth sailing, we made it. This week, his teacher is preparing to meet all the parents and planning for the next quarter. We are meeting her on the 24th of October in the morning.
The Knots Behind My New Chapter – As A Learning Coach
He never has to do any intense work all through his 4 years on earth so far. He gets to play all day and not much schooling unless he wants to. If he does do any school work, they have never bothered him before. They are usually fun for him. About 4-5 weeks into our homeschooling program, David mentioned that school was hard work. The 7 weeks of homeschooling was not always smooth sailing like I’ve said before.
We struggled and got back to school on several occasions. One of the struggle we had was trying to get all the various phonic sounds accurately. I was born with a cleft palate and teaching David phonics was a tremendous task for me. Sometimes, if you know David, he liked to be the teacher instead.. and that did not help either. Unfortunately, the struggle might have caused him some anxiety which did not help our relationship as mom and son. At times, I wished the struggles never happened. Other than phonics, we got along pretty well.
The Needs To Advocate As A Mom In This New Chapter
I was his mom to begin with, although in my new chapter I was called to be David’s learning coach. I felt as his mom, I needed to fight for what was best for him. In so many way, I could work around to keep him engaged and growing in knowledge because I knew how to work according to his ability. He did great in many areas in Kindergarten however, I felt he needed more challenge in Mathematics so my mommy instinct kicked in.
I felt the need to push for more expectation from his Kindergarten teacher despite the fact that as a law abiding citizen, I grew up following rules and regulations. This is clearly another new chapter in my life. From a reserved and timid individual, I have become an advocate and David’s learning coach. This new chapter brought forth some epiphany moments in me.
The Epiphany Behind My New Chapter As David’s Learning Coach
Into the 7 weeks of homeschooling David, I got to see him for the first time cutting shapes independently using a safety scissors. He is able to write phrases reasonably well in lower case letters. So much so that even Grandpa noticed how much he improved in his handwriting. This proud mama had to share with his teacher.
The epiphany moment came when his teacher called me ‘a blessed homeschooling mom’. You see, 7 weeks before, we were not sure if we were ready to home-school David. However, 7 weeks into his Kindergarten, mommy suddenly realized we made the right choice to home-school him. We got to see, our own ‘aha’ moment. Nothing is more worthwhile than experiencing our ‘aha’ moments with David.
New Chapter -What’s For The Future?
For now, we are happy with our decision. We will continue to home-school David until the need arises to make another decision together. To work harder at improving my skills as a learning coach and be more sensitive to David’s feelings to build him up.
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Hello everyone! My name is David and I am 4. I am going 5 on August 29. Happy Hugalicious Day! ‘Hugalicious is that it will never end’. Come celebrate Hugalicious Day with me on August 21. Post how you celebrate Hugalicious with me and hashtag it to #celebratehugaliciousdaywithdavid I love to watch your videos.
The Story Behind Hugalicious Day
David loves putting 2 words together and creates a whole new word. It’s his thing. He is absolutely creative and definitely a curious little guy. He is always looking for new ideas through his play and learning. One day he saw an advertisement and he shouted: ‘Cycleboard’! Now you ask: ‘What’s a Cycleboard’?
By the time David is 4, he’s reading really well for his age. He calls himself ‘Math Bee‘ and a great speller for his age. David enjoys playing games like ‘Angry birds’, ‘Bad Piggies’, ‘Cut the rope with Om Nom’ and others. He loves to sing and dance and adores minions and various characters in Mickey Mouse Clubhouse.
Occasionally, he gets special treats by going to the play area in his favorite McDonald. Even though he is 4, David is able to google anything he wants to know on his computer. He aspires to become an awesome game host and his favorite is: ‘Who wants to be a millionaire?’ David is starting his schooling, a day before he turns 5, online with K12.com
Reasons Why Hugalicious Is Important To David
He loves playing with his friends and often looks forward to social activities, however, due to our present circumstance, we are unable to do so. David’s dad was and is still unemployed for more than 2 years now. We moved in to take care of David’s grandpa.
When David was 2, we gave him a $5 calculator as a Christmas gift that year. We could not afford more because of our circumstance. That turned out as an awesome idea because he loved numbers. Even to this day, he loves to learn everything new that is to do with numbers.
He does not attend birthday parties because they cost money. We celebrate his birthdays by going out to dinners and cakes just on his birthdays. Yet this little guy never once complain that we do not give him a birthday party.
Mom’s Thoughts And Reflection
As his parents, we cannot give him much like many kids his age, however, David never ask for anything. Most of what he has come from gifts his grandma bought for him on his first birthday. Often neighbors would drop by and gave him items he needed, solely by the grace of God.
David stays home most of time and so he loves his computer. When he brought up the idea about Hugalicious Day, I just love it. I hope that by doing this, David gets to learn he makes a difference even though he is 4. He would learn that his ideas can make someone else happy.
Be Resilience To Life
My mother-in-law had an amazing plant at the porch for several years now. It is one of the most resilience plants of all I know. Let me introduce you to a favorite of all humming birds in our neighborhood anyway.
Maybe some know this plant well but I am sure there are others who do not. I have the privilege to live with this amazing plant for more than 9 years now and would like to share what I learned about some surprising life lessons from it. Through this article, I will highlight some specific life lessons we can learn.
It does not take much effort to keep this beautiful plant alive. Sometimes, you watch it drooping and seemingly dying. However, with one sufficient drink from the sprinkler, it will return often without a doubt to life soon after that drink. Life is sometimes tough, but if our wish to live is stronger than giving it up than we like this lovely plant can revive quickly. Every opportunity we take to keep us going, is an opportunity to live above our circumstances.
If we give up, we deny life for ourselves. This particular plant is a true survivor even in the toughest ground.
Easy To Propagate – Resilience To Grow Freely
One of the easiest way to plant this beauty is simply to cut a piece of it and stick it to the ground with only consistent watering. It grows well without much care. In life, we resist changes. If we are open to being moved from one situation to another, we are not that despondent when life tests our strength. It is never easy when your life gets interrupted by unexpected events.
However, the flexibility gives us the strength to stay calm and not to run away from unexpected and difficult circumstances.
When The New Replace The Dead
As I see, often in this particular plant, new blooms appear shortly after the flowers appear dead. We celebrate resilience when the new replace those that are dead. On the contrary, to give up is to stop trying again and with it comes death.
We need new fresh outlook every time we get knock down. You see, new blooms bring new beginning and a glimpse of hope that comes along in it. From watching this plant often, it reminds me that I need to stay resilience no matter what life brings.
I would not be surprised if it is the reason this beautiful plant is deeply loved.
Can we trust the silence of the Almighty?
Today, I started to write on this segment and hope that we can explore on this subject with depth and perhaps gain a new refreshing revelation later. The truth is not all questions have answers but with God’s revelation, we can get a better understanding of where we are and why we are going through it.
One of the greatest mystery of all is this silence of God right when you think you need Him. Why does God put us through this process? Have you experienced this where you heard from God, that a breakthrough is coming and you have hope and excitement. Suddenly, you got hit by this ‘massive’ silence from God, that left you wondering what you did. Is God angry with me? What have I done wrong this time?
Today, I hope to discuss this with you. Honestly, I have no answer to this yet. Are we on the same boat? Why is it that God cannot understand us? Does He had to figure us out or do we have to figure Him out?
Let me share my story – God’s silence
Declare the year of freedom I was given this for 2017. I did not understand why and how. But, I accepted and believe it was from God. My husband spent time in prayer and received more revelation on it. He believed God will send us to places, namely Spain, and surprisingly, Japan and one other place, I forgot. Japan was a surprise for me as it is a hard land for the gospel.
Next question: How? Dan is unable to find work for over 2 years now. We do not have the income to travel. But deep in my heart, I believe if this revelation is from Him, He will give all we need to get the tasks done.
He received revelation that needs to meet specific conditions before breakthrough comes. Then lately, Dan, my husband became desperate for income to flow in. It was a difficult struggle for us not to have an income for the family. It is either we are fighting with God on this or God is addressing this head on. We are still struggling to figure this out.
Lately in the shower, out of nowhere God dropped a word for us : Your drought is over! When you hear this, you can imagine how exciting I am. Right? Wrong. Next thing you know God is silent since and everything seem to go wrong. We have more frustrations and pain to deal with. Can the word I heard be of God’s?
Is this silence familiar to you?
Do you have a word for our situation? This is a learning curve for us and the struggle is real. Most of all, I share with you honestly today because I believe we are not the only family going through this and at the same time, there is a need for us as believers to understand this mystery. In hoping that from what we learn, it produces a sweet aroma from the hardship we go through to bring God’s glory and then return it back to Him.
We include a set of questions for your group Bible discussion. Hopeful that this discussion will help bring some light and answers to your circumstance, You are allowed to use my story.
Group Bible Discussion: Silence of the Almighty
Study : The Life Of JOB
- Does God have a purpose in His silence? Discuss the possible answers.
- What have I done to cause God to remain silent this long?
- Is God angry with me?
- What does the Bible talk about His silence?
- How long should God remain silent?
- Why is God silent?
- How do we pray for those who go through this?
- Is God’s silence an final test for His children?