What God Spoke To My Heart (Vision 2018)
What God Spoke To My Heart (Vision 2018)
What God Spoke To My Heart (Vision 2018)
What a year had gone by so quickly and it is that season for us to reflect again what God had done. What is your year like in 2017? Did it go well as you have anticipated? Or is it a year full of challenges and lessons to learn?
In This Season Did You Grow Spiritually?
One key question that you need to ask yourself is that in this season of your life, did you grow at all? Sometimes we can be looking at our situations with a microscopic eye view and get despair because of what we see, thinking everything is hopeless.
Instead, have you step back and focus on the big picture lately? If you have, what do you see? It is not too late.
A Season Of Growth And Hope
During the tough time, choose to declare that God is good. Even though you cannot see the good and understand the reason behind the lessons. Believe that God is in control because He is faithful.
During the good time, give Him praise and glory. For He is good.
Let This Christmas Season Be Special
May you allow God to search your heart and motive this season. During this time of reflection let the Holy Spirit work through you. As a reminder:
Every time you see a candy cane, either hanging on your Christmas tree or simply happen to see one.. simply take a step back and be reminded of God’s big tapestry. Though you cannot see what God is doing because what you see makes no sense right now. Simply put your trust in Him.
As a parent, did you ever have to talk to your child about anger? The issue is real in a child growing up. There are moments where as a parent we have to engage and sometimes confront our kids about their struggle coping with it. It is not a pleasant conversation but a necessary reinforcement if the behavior persists.
My question is: What would you tell your child about the emotion? Yes, anger is a natural emotion that if provoked, is normal. But, the issue is how do you regulate that emotion and not be subdued by it? What do you mean? Well, here’s where I would like to discuss whether being angry is a problem or is inability to control it, the problem? What then is the solution if any?
Cause And Effect Of Anger
Do you agree with me that such emotion is not desirable and not acceptable socially? Now ask yourself why it is so? So, you think it is destructive? Have you thought about why such behavior is destructive?
I have a 5-year-old whom I spend substantial time explaining why anger is not an emotion that brings happiness around people. This is what I’ve said to him. Do not try to collect and stay angry for a long time. The more frustration you collect, the worst you would feel inside. It would eventually reach a point you cannot hold in any longer and you explode.
When you explode, others around you get hurt. So, they begin to collect anger like you and the more they collect, the more they hold in and subsequently, they explode too. This time, when they explode, you get hurt by them. The cycle continues.
At this point, I stop to ask him some questions. Do you think being angry is a good thing? Why and why not? I need to ask these questions in order to know if he understands what I’m trying to tell him. Being a bright little guy, he shows that he has understood me. So, he concludes that being and stay angry is not a good thing because it hurts others and himself. So, what’s the solution?
Now, I change the scenario and instead of staying angry, I encourage him to think about what if. What if you give away hugs? What would happen? Everyone is happy. What are we collecting this time? Happiness. Is happiness a good thing? When you feel good and everyone around you feels good, it brings joy and smiles instead of hurts. Let us collect hugs and spread happiness instead. We need to understand that in some cases, there are exceptions.
Some kids have difficulty controlling their emotions due to some disability, that is true. Emotional outbursts are often the result of a child’s inability to control his/her emotion. Expressing complex emotions can be perplexed for some, therefore, it is a real difficult challenge for them. There are several reasons why they are struggling although, there are times, it may not necessary be their fault.
For example, children with ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) have difficulty controlling their emotions and we need sensitivity and awareness when we meet a child with ADHD. How do we encourage our kids to include friends with ADHD during play time?
The Next Question Is
How do we then teach our children to relate with others who are different? Fear often stops us from wanting to relate with someone who is different from us. There are several reasons why we are afraid. How do we teach our kiddos to open up to peers unlike their thinking?
If you have any input to add to our discussion, please feel free to comment on our post below. What would you say is a good solution to teach our kiddos about anger and what can we learn from them?
Recently a debate broke out that somehow concluded for some that Dr. Seuss is a racist. I disagreed with any one who thought that just because he was ignorant or lack awareness of how a person should react to an unknown prejudgement, should be labelled as a racist. If we are honest with ourselves, we know we struggle to accept certain uncomfortable prejudice that are unspoken or hidden. So, do we call ourselves racists? The fact that something change your mind about another group of people, makes you realize you ‘were once a racist’. Why do I say that?
We are not born without prejudgments because our cultures determine who we are. Our cultures teach us how to relate, interact and socialize. But, our cultures do not teach us to be inclusive of everyone. Our lack of understanding of another culture, keep us away from the unknown and from our discomfort. For some will acknowledge that they were once racists, however, if they were, how could they arrive at that conclusion? What made them racists?
What Or Who Then Is A Racist?
This brings me to my next point. What makes us therefore racists? The fact that we discriminate does not necessarily make us racists. The comparison of who is superior and looking down on a race, that, makes a person a racist. The fact is I am better than you because I am a (race) speaks of your lack of understanding of that culture and race and therefore highlights your ignorance. The truth is, that is what racism is all about. It simply highlights our ignorance and our pride. Do we simply hold on to our stupidity or learn to see what is good in another culture and race?
Why do I conclude that Dr. Seuss is absolutely not a racist? It is very simple. The fact that at the end of his life, he regretted ever written those early cartoons. He finally realized that he could have done better and he wished he never did what he did in his earlier work in his life. That realization made that difference. He acknowledged his prejudice and regretted. In that sense made me think that he was never a racist to begin with.
A self-professed racist would never acknowledge that and if we are honest enough, we would have to confess that we were once racists ourselves. If racism is indeed race discrimination and racial prejudice, then we are all absolutely guilty of being racists at the least once. Don’t you agree? Should the one who thinks he is not guilty cast that first stone? Think again.
Excitement continued to build up when we finally had a chance to talk to his new teacher over the phone. To cut the story short, David was transferred from Transitional Kindergarten to Kindergarten.
Now, after the introduction to David’s new school online, Dan and I were told about our roles as his learning coaches. We had to go through orientation courses to get ready for this new role we were about to embark with him. The reality of being David’s learning coach finally set in. It took me a while to adapt and adjust to this new role in my life. Seven weeks had past and David did well although not always smooth sailing, we made it. This week, his teacher is preparing to meet all the parents and planning for the next quarter. We are meeting her on the 24th of October in the morning.
The Knots Behind My New Chapter – As A Learning Coach
He never has to do any intense work all through his 4 years on earth so far. He gets to play all day and not much schooling unless he wants to. If he does do any school work, they have never bothered him before. They are usually fun for him. About 4-5 weeks into our homeschooling program, David mentioned that school was hard work. The 7 weeks of homeschooling was not always smooth sailing like I’ve said before.
We struggled and got back to school on several occasions. One of the struggle we had was trying to get all the various phonic sounds accurately. I was born with a cleft palate and teaching David phonics was a tremendous task for me. Sometimes, if you know David, he liked to be the teacher instead.. and that did not help either. Unfortunately, the struggle might have caused him some anxiety which did not help our relationship as mom and son. At times, I wished the struggles never happened. Other than phonics, we got along pretty well.
I was his mom to begin with, although in my new chapter I was called to be David’s learning coach. I felt as his mom, I needed to fight for what was best for him. In so many way, I could work around to keep him engaged and growing in knowledge because I knew how to work according to his ability. He did great in many areas in Kindergarten however, I felt he needed more challenge in Mathematics so my mommy instinct kicked in.
I felt the need to push for more expectation from his Kindergarten teacher despite the fact that as a law abiding citizen, I grew up following rules and regulations. This is clearly another new chapter in my life. From a reserved and timid individual, I have become an advocate and David’s learning coach. This new chapter brought forth some epiphany moments in me.
The Epiphany Behind My New Chapter As David’s Learning Coach
Into the 7 weeks of homeschooling David, I got to see him for the first time cutting shapes independently using a safety scissors. He is able to write phrases reasonably well in lower case letters. So much so that even Grandpa noticed how much he improved in his handwriting. This proud mama had to share with his teacher.
The epiphany moment came when his teacher called me ‘a blessed homeschooling mom’. You see, 7 weeks before, we were not sure if we were ready to home-school David. However, 7 weeks into his Kindergarten, mommy suddenly realized we made the right choice to home-school him. We got to see, our own ‘aha’ moment. Nothing is more worthwhile than experiencing our ‘aha’ moments with David.
For now, we are happy with our decision. We will continue to home-school David until the need arises to make another decision together. To work harder at improving my skills as a learning coach and be more sensitive to David’s feelings to build him up.
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Political Correctness Is Out Of Control
The reason for raising this social situation is because we need a more honest and tougher look at what’s happening today. Insisting on political correctness mentality is spun out of control. At the same time, it takes away our freedom in so many ways.
When did we first hear the phrase ‘political correctness’ before? What does it mean to our families, colleagues at work and online friends on social media? In addition to all my questions, here is the last one: ‘Why is being politically correct so important socially?’ Have you ask why?
Whenever we have to watch over our shoulders to say something in the open, in retrospect, we have no freedom. Unfortunately, a leaked written memo that came out of Google became viral because what was written offended his colleagues and was ultimately shamed on the media this week.
I honestly did not agree with his perspective on some points. Yet, when Google CEO fired him, the news shocked me. Apart from what I think, I do not agree that his memo was worthy of firing. Was he fired for the wrong reasons? He responded by planning to file a complaint against Google.
Did he have the right to respond the way he did? In a way, the firing forced the former Google employee to ‘shut up’. Would that stop him from making his mind known? Did someone take his freedom away? What do you think?
This week, Bob Nelson, Fresno Unified’s interim superintendent was on the news. His statement: ‘you have kids who are extremely moldable at this stage, and if you start telling them that LGBT is OK and that it’s a way of life, well maybe you just swayed the kid to go that way‘ brought fire and fury to the LGBT community and an LGBT activist demanded that he should be fired for his statement to the local newspaper, Fresno Bee.
As a mom, I agree with Bob because our young children are visual learners. They cannot process abstract information like the older kids do. These materials are complex and not age appropriate. They often easily persuaded in order to gain an adult’s approval.
Here is another classic example of how often we are walking on egg shells. When a minority group opposes our perspective, we become offensive to them. This clearly reinforce what I’ve to highlight in this article.
How is intolerance acceptable to some speeches and not to others? Why do we punish those who speak their minds? When do we violate free speech and free press? How can we hold a double standard on free speech when in truth, freedom is for all? Not exclusively for just some of the elite members of the club.
I choose to respectfully disagree and allow him the freedom to express his honest opinion. I also realize we have limit in what we can and cannot tolerate. Now, you are being judgmental.. or am I? We need a tougher look and be honest about what we are able to tolerate and what’s intolerable to us. In the case of Bob Nelson, I believe in what he said and we should protest if Fresno Unified School District fires him.
In retrospect, have we been fair or are we equally judgmental to those who differ from our perspective? As a result, we took away his freedom to be himself, to express his thoughts on various matters. Are we being fair to him as a nation? How about Bob’s case?
If we have to walk on egg shells all the time, the truth of the matter is, we have no freedom. No freedom in speech and actions and most of all, no freedom of the press. Whenever a person gets punish for putting an opinion in print, we rob him or her the freedom to express who he or she is. For a nation that actively encourage freedom, this is unacceptable.
My conclusion to this article is that if we therefore, cannot disagree with respect to those who have different opinions from us, we take away the freedom that belong to all. Can we at the least agree with this?
Parental Opinions Matter
Too Late For Charlie?
This morning I woke up with a heavy heart after receiving a devastating news update on Charlie Gard’s latest development. It is a piece of news no parents look forward to. Both Chris Gard and Connie Yates declared their decision to end their legal battle to save Charlie’s life. This decision came after Dr. Michio Hirano took a look at the scan submitted to the court by the Hospital today. The prognosis did not look good.
According to the report that came out this morning, “Charlie has experienced significant muscular atrophy, for instance, as a result of his condition. While the treatment could potentially improve his condition – though doctors have said the chances are low – it would not be able to reverse those effects and so it is too late to pursue that route, the family has agreed.”
After 5 months of Charlie’s parents fighting to save their son, it is too late.
As Chris and Connie make peace to accept the news that they did everything they could to give Charlie a chance to live, no matter how long or short it might seem, to prepare for Charlie’s last remaining days left with them. This is a devastating day not only for them but also for any parents who believe that life is worth saving. No matter how short that little life is or in some circumstances, is allowed to live.
What does ‘die with dignity’ mean to Charlie?
Does the term ‘die with dignity’ mean anything to Charlie? Or is ‘die with dignity’ a comforting thought for us as adults because Charlie is a hopeless case? Charlie’s primary doctors could not reach a final decision that Charlie is in pain. How can we say that by removing Charlie’s life support we are letting him ‘die with dignity’? Why do we have to fight this hard to save a life before it is too late?
Is ending a life easier than saving one these day? Who truly win today?
Did the law of Britain win today?
Judge Fransis will make his decision on Charlie tomorrow and we know what is going to happen to him. For those who believe that the law rules over parental rights, you may feel you are right on today. It is time to celebrate indeed. Those who think Charlie got 5 more months to live, got justification by the verdict today. You breathe a little better because you are probably right.
The truth is, when a life ends, no one wins. No one reaches this far to stay alive and is ultimately given the verdict that it is ‘too late’. Please I ask you continue to pray for Charlie‘s parents through this ordeal.
Did Charlie’s primary doctors from GOSH do all they could, to care adequately for him while put on the ventilator for life support? Or was it true, that his death sentence was declared since March?
My question is: Did Charlie continue to receive any form of therapy that is, physical therapy, while he was under the care of GOSH after March? This action speaks volume because we need to know if Charlie got the death sentence since the hospital decided that he was truly a ‘hopeless case’ in March?
Why does it matter or does it matter to anyone that a hospital has the right to give up on its patient and deny any form of treatment presumably before seeking a second opinion?
By raising these questions I hope we will seriously ponder on what is right and what is appropriate. Charlie deserves an answer from our conscience not out of our convenience.
Every step of the way was difficult and obstructed by the Great Ormond Street Hospital in London. In fact the final obstruction came today from GOSH clearly showed how unwilling the Hospital was to help Charlie’s family.
If it is truly so important to GOSH to make sure that Charlie ‘dies with dignity’, then GOSH needs to release him to his family to let him die at home with privacy in his mom and dad’s final care. Just stop making absolute impossibility to Charlie’s final moment.
Judge Fransis Rulings
July 26 update: The battle continues.. Judge Fransis gave a statement that if Charlie’s parents and GOSH cannot reach an agreement by 12pm tomorrow (July 27 ), Charlie will die in a hospice facility.
July 27 update: Judge Fransis ruled that Charlie will die in a hospice facility and Charlie’s parents are disheartened by the outcome of the ruling today.
July 28 update: Charlie passed away today after the order to remove his life support executed.
Reflection on Charlie
Please pray for Chris and Connie as they did the best they could for Charlie. Although life does not always go the way we expect, we can only trust God that He knows why He is in a hurry to receive Charlie back in His arms in Heaven. The truth is even though the world let Charlie down, God will not. He is safe in God’s arms now. Let Charlie #restinpeace.
Hello everyone! My name is David and I am 4. I am going 5 on August 29. Happy Hugalicious Day! ‘Hugalicious is that it will never end’. Come celebrate Hugalicious Day with me on August 21. Post how you celebrate Hugalicious with me and hashtag it to #celebratehugaliciousdaywithdavid I love to watch your videos.
The Story Behind Hugalicious Day
David loves putting 2 words together and creates a whole new word. It’s his thing. He is absolutely creative and definitely a curious little guy. He is always looking for new ideas through his play and learning. One day he saw an advertisement and he shouted: ‘Cycleboard’! Now you ask: ‘What’s a Cycleboard’?
By the time David is 4, he’s reading really well for his age. He calls himself ‘Math Bee‘ and a great speller for his age. David enjoys playing games like ‘Angry birds’, ‘Bad Piggies’, ‘Cut the rope with Om Nom’ and others. He loves to sing and dance and adores minions and various characters in Mickey Mouse Clubhouse.
Occasionally, he gets special treats by going to the play area in his favorite McDonald. Even though he is 4, David is able to google anything he wants to know on his computer. He aspires to become an awesome game host and his favorite is: ‘Who wants to be a millionaire?’ David is starting his schooling, a day before he turns 5, online with K12.com
Reasons Why Hugalicious Is Important To David
He loves playing with his friends and often looks forward to social activities, however, due to our present circumstance, we are unable to do so. David’s dad was and is still unemployed for more than 2 years now. We moved in to take care of David’s grandpa.
When David was 2, we gave him a $5 calculator as a Christmas gift that year. We could not afford more because of our circumstance. That turned out as an awesome idea because he loved numbers. Even to this day, he loves to learn everything new that is to do with numbers.
He does not attend birthday parties because they cost money. We celebrate his birthdays by going out to dinners and cakes just on his birthdays. Yet this little guy never once complain that we do not give him a birthday party.
Mom’s Thoughts And Reflection
As his parents, we cannot give him much like many kids his age, however, David never ask for anything. Most of what he has come from gifts his grandma bought for him on his first birthday. Often neighbors would drop by and gave him items he needed, solely by the grace of God.
Do you know? Bullying is becoming a deadly epidemic in America. Yet, quite frankly, we are nowhere near addressing this issue. Will we ever see an end to bullying? For now, I simply cannot see how unless we as a nation address this with absolute honesty and says: ‘Enough is enough!’
Today, in my attempt to discuss the problems behind bullying, I hope to show you how serious and deadly this epidemic actually is and why we need to do something to stop it.
Bullying Happens Everywhere Not Just In Schools
Bullying does not happen just in schools. In fact, we see it daily and it is happening everywhere and at every level. We see it in work places, over the media and social networks, at home and sadly, our children pick it up and use it for various reasons.
Many of our children become victims to bullying and sadly, more are choosing suicide to get out of it. The bullying suicide statistics is ever climbing at an alarming rate. So have you wonder why so many of our children are either bullied or are bullies themselves?
Reasons Why People Choose Bullying
Bullying is not an issue just for our children alone, it is also for the adults. Why do people choose to bully?
People choose to bully because they are
Bullying is a tell-tale sign to something bigger. According the reasons above, I notice that one thing calls out to me. People hide their hurts and are afraid being truthful about their pain and needs.
Why as a society and nation that pursues freedom for its citizens, its people are not free being truthful as they are? Can this inability for truthfulness, a huge problem we have not addressed? A mountain we have no clue where and how to begin looking.
Can we be truthful when we address:
Tolerance – When we call on others for tolerance, we need to look at ourselves and honestly ask and demand that we are able to do likewise. If we are unable to meet that, then we should not put that expectation on anyone.
If we are intolerance of others opinions and views, be truthful about it. As we address others’ inability to tolerate, we need to look inwardly and address it within ourselves why we are intolerant of others at the same time.
Respect – We can agree to disagree on anything. We do not need to resort to name calling to those who disagree with us. When we communicate, we make sure we get our thoughts across clearly and to the point.
Believe that the receiving end of our communication has something good to offer to us. Be respectful and return with kindness. Be an intensive listener. Simply, do unto others what you would want others to do unto you.
Love – It is not easy to love strangers, am I right? What do we know about them? So, why do we get so upset and frustrated communicating with strangers over the social media? Do we talk to our friends and neighbors in the same way?
The truth: Are we bullying strangers because we do not have to face them like we communicate with colleagues and neighbors? Simply because there is no consequences to answer to? On the contrary, if we do everything out of love, we can love even strangers whom we do not know.
The Reason Behind This Deadly Epidemic – Bullying
The reason this epidemic is so deadly is because our youths are in crisis. The constant and relentless bullying is wearing our young people out, forcing them to choose suicide as the only option left to ease from their suffering and pain. Often, when a suicide attempt is successful, a life gone and ended.
The hardcore truth is the victims of bullying who attempt suicides are not only our youths but our children in their tween. If we as a society do not address this epidemic, we are going to lose our children to suicides. When will we wake up and do something before it is too late.
It is not enough talking about what bullying does. We need to as a nation take a deeper look at ourselves, how we treat others, what we show by examples to our children, how we value life, and where we stand on bullying and ultimately how serious are we to say: ‘Enough is enough!’ We have a problem. It is time to end it once and for all.